A Short Story on Self Confidence

A Short Story on Self Confidence
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There was a business executive who was deep in debt and could see no way out.

Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him. “I can see that something is troubling you,” he said.

After listening to the executive’s woes, the old man said, “I believe I can help you.”

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, Continue reading


Learn and earn

Learn and earn

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Chuan and Jing joined a wholesale company together just after graduation. Both worked very hard.

After several years, the boss promoted Jing to sales executive but Chuan remained a sales rep. One day Chuan could not take it anymore, tender resignation to the boss and complained the boss did not value hard working staff, but only promoted those who flattered him.

The boss knew that Chuan worked very hard for the years, but in order to help Chuan realize the difference between him and Jing, the boss asked Chuan to do the following. Go and find out anyone selling water melon in the market? Chuan returned and said yes. The boss asked how much per kg? Chuan went back to the market to ask and returned to inform boss the $12 per kg.

Boss told Chuan, I will ask Jing the same question? Jing went, returned and said, Continue reading


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By good fortune, I was able to raft down the Motu River in New Zealand twice during the last year. The magnificent four-day journey traverses one of the last wilderness areas in the North Island. The first expedition was led by Buzz, an American guide with a great deal of rafting experience and many stories to tell of mighty rivers such as the Colorado. With a leader like Buzz, there was no reason to fear any of the great rapids on the Motu. The first half day, in the gentle upper reaches, was spent developing teamwork and co-ordination. Strokes had to be mastered, and the discipline of following Continue reading

The American Dream

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An American businessman was standing at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish. How long did it take you to catch them? the American asked. Only a little while the Mexican replied. Why don’t you stay out longer and catch more fish? the American then asked. I have enough to support my family’s immediate needs the Mexican said. But the American then asked, Continue reading

Testing for gossip

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In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, “Do you know what I just heard about your friend?” “Hold on a minute,” Socrates replied. “Before telling me anything I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called the Triple Filter Test.” “Triple filter?” “That’s right,” Socrates continued. “Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a Continue reading

Alexander and Diogenes

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Now when Alexander [the Great] appeared before the Greek leaders in Corinth they greeted him warmly and paid him lavish compliments- all of them, that is but one. A funny fellow, a philosopher named Diogenes. He had views not unlike those of the Buddha. According to him, possessions and all the things we think we need only serve to distract us and get in the way of our simple enjoyment of life. So he had given away everything he owned and now sat, almost naked, in a barrel in the market square in Corinth where he lived, free and independent like a stray dog. Curious to meet this strange fellow, Alexander went to call on him. Dressed in shining armour, the plume on his helmet waving in the breeze, he walked up to the barrel and said to Diogenes: ‘I like you. Let me know your wish and I shall grant it.’ Diogenes, who had until then been Continue reading

Jumping The Queue

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Today, a true tale of heroism that takes place not in a war zone, nor a hospital, but in Victoria station in London in 2007, during a tube strike. Our hero – a transport journalist and self-described big, stocky bloke with a shaven head named Gareth Edwards, who first wrote about this experience on the community blog metafilter.com – is standing with other commuters in a long, snaking line for a bus, when a smartly dressed businessman blatantly cuts in line behind him. (Behind him: this detail matters.) The interloper proves immune to polite remonstration, whereupon Edwards is seized by a magnificent idea. He turns to the elderly woman standing behind the queue-jumper, and asks her if she’d like to go ahead of him. She accepts, so he asks the person behind her, and the next person, and the next – until 60 or Continue reading

I Knew

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There were two childhood buddies who went through school and college and even joined the army together. War broke out and they were fighting in the same unit. One night they were ambushed. Bullets were flying all over and out of the darkness came a voice, Harry, please come and help me. Harry immediately recognized the voice of his childhood buddy, Bill. He asked the captain if he could go. The captain said, No, I can’t let you go, I am already short-handed and I cannot afford to lose one more person. Besides, the way Bill sounds he is not going to make it. Harry kept quiet. Again the voice came, Harry, please come and help me. Harry sat quietly because Continue reading

Important Goals

One day at a time

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On the best sunny day, the most powerful magnifying glass will not light paper if you keep moving the glass. But if you focus and hold it, the paper will light up. That is the power of concentration. A man

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Negative Persons

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There was a hunter who bought a bird dog, the only one of its kind in the world. That could walk on water . He couldn’t believe his eyes when he saw this miracle. At the same time, he was very pleased that he could show off his new acquisition to his friends. He invited a friend to go duck hunting. After some time, they shot a few ducks and the Continue reading

Focus and Concentrate

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An ancient Indian sage was teaching his disciples the art of archery. He put a wooden bird as the target and asked them to aim at the eye of the bird. The first disciple was asked to describe what he saw. He said, I see the trees, the branches, the leaves, the sky, the bird and its eye.. The sage asked this disciple to wait. Then he asked the second disciple Continue reading


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If you ask most people what is their one major objective in life, they would probably give you a vague answer, such as, I want to be successful, be happy, make a good living, and that is it. They are all wishes and none of them are clear goals. Goals must be SMART: 1. S–specific. For example, I want to lose weight. This is wishful thinking. It becomes a goal when I pin myself down to I will lose 10 pounds in 90 days. 2. M–must be Continue reading

Little Things

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There was a man taking a morning walk at or the beach. He saw that along with the morning tide came hundreds of starfish and when the tide receded, they were left behind and with the morning sun rays, they would die. The tide was fresh and the starfish were alive. The man took a few steps, picked one and threw it into the water. He did that repeatedly. Right behind him there was another person who Continue reading

The Circle Of Joy.

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And old story tells that one day, a countryman knocked hard on a monastery door. When the monk tending the gates opened up, he was given a magnificent bunch of grapes. – Brother, these are the finest my vineyard has produced. I’ve come to bear them as a gift. – Thank you! I will take them to the Abbot immediately, he’ll be delighted with this offering. – No! I brought them for you. For whenever I Continue reading

Keep Your Dream

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I have a friend named Monty Roberts who owns a horse ranch in San Ysidro. He has let me use his house to put on fund-raising events to raise money for youth at risk programs. The last time I was there he introduced me by saying, “I want to tell you why I let Jack use my horse. It all goes back to a story about a young man who was the son of an itinerant horse trainer who would go from stable to stable, race track to race track, farm to farm and ranch to ranch, training horses. As a result, Continue reading

Face Difficulties Positively

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This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery. Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his Continue reading

A woodcutter

A Woodcutter:
Once upon a time, a very strong woodcutter asked for a job in a timber merchant and he got it. The pay was really good and so was the work condition. For those reasons, the woodcutter was determined to do his best. His boss gave him an axe and showed him the area where he supposed to work. The first day, the woodcutter brought 18 trees. “Congratulations,” the boss said. “Go on that way!” Very motivated by the boss words, the woodcutter tried harder the next day, but he could only bring 15 trees. The third day he tried even harder, but he could only bring 10 trees. Day after day he was bringing less and less trees. “I must be losing my strength”, the woodcutter thought. He went to the boss and apologized, saying that he could not understand what was going on. “When was the last time you sharpened your axe?” the boss asked. “Sharpen? I had no time to sharpen my axe. I have been very busy trying to cut trees…” Reflection: Our lives are like that. We sometimes get so busy that we don’t take time to sharpen the “axe”. In today’s world, it seems that everyone is busier than ever, but less happy that ever. Why is that? Could it be that we have forgotten how to stay “sharp”? There’s nothing wrong with activity and hard work. But we should not get so busy that we neglect the truly important things in life, like our personal life, taking time to get close to our Creator, giving more time for our family, taking time to read etc. We all need time to relax, to think and meditate, to learn and grow. If we don’t take the time to sharpen the “axe”, we will become dull and lose our effectiveness.

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Buying Dad’s Hour

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The man came home from work late again, tired and irritated, to find his 5 year old son waiting for him at the door. “Daddy, may I ask you a question? “Yeah, sure, what is it?” – replied the man. “Daddy, how much money do you make an hour?” “That’s none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?” – the man said angrily. “I just want to know. Please tell Continue reading

The Hotel Clark

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One stormy night many years ago, an elderly man and his wife entered the lobby of a small hotel in Philadelphia, USA. Trying to get out of the rain, the couple approached the front desk hoping to get some shelter for the night. “Could you possibly give us a room here?” – the husband asked. The clerk, a friendly man with a winning smile, looked at the couple and explained that there were three conventions in town. “All of our rooms are taken,” the clerk said. “But I can’t send a Continue reading

Story of a blind girl

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There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”. The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying: “Just take care of my eyes dear.” This is how human brain changes when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before, and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations. Life Is A Gift Today before you think of saying an unkind word– think of someone who can’t speak. Before you complain about the taste of your food– think of someone who has nothing to eat. Before you complain about your husband or wife– think of someone who is crying out to God for a companion. Today before you complain about life– think of someone who went too early to heaven. Before you complain about your children– think of someone who desires children but they’re barren. Before you argue about your dirty house, someone didn’t clean or sweep– think of the people who are living in the streets. Before whining about the distance you drive– think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet. And when you are tired and complain about your job– think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job. But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another– remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker. And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down– put a smile on your face and thank God you’re alive and still around. Life is a gift – Live it, Enjoy it, Celebrate it, and Fulfill it.

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Greatest gift is love

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A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said, “I don’t think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat.” “Is the man of the house home?”, they asked. “No”, she said. “He’s out.” “Then we cannot come in”, they replied. In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. “Go tell them I am home and invite them in!” The woman went out and Continue reading

Helping Others

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Once there was a small boy named Shankar. He belonged to a poor family. One day, he was crossing through the forest carrying some woods. He saw an old man who was very hungry. Shankar wanted to give him some food, but he did not have food for his own. So he continued on his way. On his way he saw a deer who was very thirsty. He wanted to give him some water, but he did not have water for himself. So he went on his way ahead. Then he saw a man who wanted to make a Continue reading

Ship of Friendship:

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A voyaging ship was wrecked during a storm at sea and only two of the men on it were able to swim to a small, desert like island. The two survivors who have been a good friends, not knowing what else to do, agreed that they had no other recourse but to pray to God. However, to find out whose prayer was more powerful, they agreed to divide the territory between them and stay on opposite sides of the island. The first thing they prayed for was food. The next morning, the first man saw a Continue reading

Peace Of Mind

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Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were travelling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Do get me some water from that lake there.” The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that some people were washing clothes in the water and, right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very
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Two Frogs In The Milk

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This is the story of two frogs. One frog was fat and the other skinny. One day, while searching for food, they inadvertently jumped into a vat of milk. They couldn’t get out, as the sides were too slippery, so they were just swimming around. The fat frog said to the skinny frog, Brother frog, there’s no use paddling any longer. We’re just going to drown, so we might as well give up. The skinny frog replied, Hold on brother, keep paddling. Somebody will get us out. And they continued paddling for Continue reading

Every Bucket Counts

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Once day, having learned that the King of Fez was hunting lions in the neighbourhood, they decided to invite him and his court, and killed a number of sheep in his honour. The sovereign had dinner and went to bed. Wishing to show their generosity, they placed a huge goatskin bottle before his door and agreed to fill it up with milk for the royal breakfast. The villagers all had to milk their goats and then each of them had to tip his bucket into the container. Given its great size, each of them said to himself that he might just as well dilute his milk with a good quantity of water without anyone noticing. To the extent that, in the morning, such a thin liquid was poured out for the king and his court that it had no taste than the taste of meanness and greed.

A Turn Of The Screw

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There was an industrialist whose production line inexplicably breaks down, costing him millions per day. He finally tracks down an expert who takes out a screwdriver, turns one screw, and then – as the factory cranks back to life – presents a bill for £10,000. Affronted, the factory owner demands an itemised version. The expert is happy to oblige: For turning a screw: £1. For knowing which screw to turn: £9,999.

The Fence

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There once was a little boy who had a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. He said “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.” You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there. Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.

Pound of Butter

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There was a farmer who sold a pound of butter to the baker. One day the baker decided to weigh the butter to see if he was getting a pound and he found that he was not. This angered him and he took the farmer to court. The judge asked the farmer if he was using any measure. The farmer replied, amour Honor, I am primitive. I don’t have a proper measure, but I do have a scale. The judge asked, Then how do you weigh the butter? The farmer replied Your Honor, long before the baker started buying butter from me, I have been buying a pound loaf of bread from him. Every day when the baker brings the bread, I put it on the scale and give him the same weight in butter. If anyone is to be blamed, it is the baker.
What is the moral of the story? We get back in life what we give to others. Whenever you take an action, ask yourself this question: Am I giving fair value for the wages or money I hope to make? Honesty and dishonesty become a habit. Some people practice dishonesty and can lie with a straight face. Others lie so much that they don’t even know what the truth is anymore. But who are they deceiving? Themselves


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A farmer insulted his neighbor. Realizing his mistake, he went to the preacher to ask for forgiveness. The preacher told him to take a bag of feathers and drop them in the center of town. The farmer did as he was told. Then the preacher asked him to go and collect the feathers and put them back in the bag. The farmer tried but couldn’t as the feathers had all blown away. When he returned with the empty bag, the preacher said, The same thing is true about your words. You dropped them rather easily but you cannot retrieve them, so be very careful in choosing your words.

The hedgehogs

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It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold. The hedgehogs, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions. After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth. Wisely, they decided to go back to Continue reading

Eating breakfast could save you from heart attack

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Eating breakfast could save you from heart attack


Many people view breakfast as a bore; while some think it’s a mark of endurance to forgo the first meal of the day. It’s not unusual to hear such people inform those who care to listen that they’ve not eaten anything all day.

Bad as it is, when breakfast skippers finally decide to eat their first meal, the tendency is for them to Continue reading

Foods that boost sleep, metabolism

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It’s okay to have a snack before bed, especially if it’s been many hours since dinner. This will prevent you from going to bed hungry, which can interfere with sleep. However, now that you know it’s okay to eat before bedtime, that doesn’t give you free rein to finish off that carton of ice cream or leftover pizza!

Greasy or salty foods are tough on your bedtime digestion. The same with any food that is spicy or acidic like tomato sauce or citrus fruits, which can increase heartburn. In addition, although ice cream is a Continue reading

Exercises for pregnant women

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Although walking, dancing and swimming are rated the best exercises during pregnancy and are usually recommended for pregnant women by their doctors, they are not the only exercises a pregnant woman should engage in. There are other simple and very definite exercises that can also be applied to Continue reading

What to do when you have Erectile Dysfunction

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When a man has trouble getting or keeping an erection, he is said to have Erectile Dysfunction (ED) which is a common type of male sexual dysfunction. ED can be a total inability to achieve an erection, an inconsistent ability to do so, or a tendency to sustain only brief erections.

Although ED becomes more common as a man gets older, it’s important to stress that it’s not a natural part of aging. You may have trouble speaking about sex, but if you have ED, you should tell your doctor, because ED can be a sign of health problems.

Problems getting or keeping an erection are known to be signs of underlying health conditions that need treatment and a risk factor for perhaps a heart disease later on. It may mean your blood vessels are clogged. It may mean you have nerve damage from diabetes.

So if you don’t see your doctor, these problems will go untreated. Having erection trouble from time to time isn’t necessarily a cause for concern. If erectile dysfunction is an ongoing issue, however, it can cause stress, affect a man’s self-confidence and contribute to relationship problems.

If you’re concerned about erectile dysfunction, talk to your doctor —even if you’re embarrassed. Sometimes, treating the underlying condition is enough to reverse erectile dysfunction. In other cases, medications or other direct treatments might be needed. Here are the most common causes of ED.


The brain is an often-overlooked erogenous zone. Sexual excitement starts in the head and works its way down. Depression can dampens desire and can lead to erectile dysfunction. Ironically, many of the drugs used to treat depression can also suppress sex drive and make it harder to get an erection, and they can cause a delay in orgasm.


Having a few drinks to get in the mood could be okay, but overindulging could make it harder to start or even finish the act. Heavy alcohol


use can interfere with erections, but the effects are usually temporary. Moderate drinking—one or two drinks a day—might have health benefits like reducing heart disease risks. Those risks are similar to erectile dysfunction risks.


The contents of the medicine cabinet could affect performance in the bedroom. A long list of common drugs can cause ED, including certain blood pressure drugs, pain medications, and antidepressants. Street drugs like amphetamines, cocaine, and marijuana can cause sexual problems in men, too.


It’s not easy to get in the mood when overwhelmed by responsibilities at work and home. Stress can take its toll on many different parts of the body, including the nether region. Dealing with stress by making lifestyle changes that promote well-being and relaxation, such as exercising regularly, getting enough sleep, and seeking professional help when appropriate, really helps.


Anger can make the blood rush to your face, but not to the one place you need it when you want to have sex. It’s not easy to feel romantic when you’re raging, whether your anger is directed at your partner or not. Unexpressed anger or improperly expressed anger can contribute to performance problems in the bedroom.


Worrying that you won’t be able to perform in the bedroom can make it harder for you to do just that. Anxiety from other parts of life can also spill over into the bedroom. All that worry can make you fear and avoid intimacy, which can spiral into a vicious cycle that puts a big strain on your sex life— and relationship.

Middle-aged spread

Carrying extra kilos can impact sexual performance, and not just by lowering self-esteem. Obese men have lower levels of the male hormone testosterone, which is important for sexual desire and producing an erection. Being overweight is also linked to high blood pressure and hardening of the arteries, which can reduce blood flow to the male sex organ.


When you don’t like what you see in the mirror, it’s easy to assume your partner isn’t going to like the view, either. A negative self-image can elicit worry not only about how you look, but also how well you’re going to perform in bed. That performance anxiety can make you too anxious to even attempt sex.

Low libido


Low libido isn’t the same as erectile dysfunction, but a lot of the same factors that stifle an erection can also dampen your interest in sex. Low self-esteem, stress, anxiety, and certain medications can all reduce your sex drive. When all those worries are tied up with making love, your interest in sex can take a nosedive.

General health

Many different health conditions can affect the nerves, muscles, or blood flow that is needed to have an erection. Diabetes, high blood pressure, hardening of the arteries, spinal cord injuries, and multiple sclerosis can contribute to ED. Surgery to treat prostate or bladder problems can also affect the nerves and blood vessels that control an erection.

Solving ED problems

It can be embarrassing to talk to your doctor about your sex life, but it’s the best way to get treated and get back to being intimate with your partner. The doctor can pinpoint the source of the problem and may recommend lifestyle interventions like quitting smoking or losing weight. Other treatment options are ED drugs, hormone treatments, a suction device that helps create an erection, or counselling.

A – Z List Of Phobias (PHOTOS)

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Phobias are the most common mental disorder in the U.S. While not comprehensive, this phobia list offers a glimpse of the many phobias that can have a serious impact on an individual’s life.



Achluophobia – Fear of darkness.
Acrophobia – Fear of heights.
Aerophobia – Fear of flying.
Algophobia – Fear of pain.
Agoraphobia – Fear of open spaces or crowds.
Aichmophobia – Fear of needles or pointed objects.
Amaxophobia – Fear of riding in a car.
Androphobia – Fear of men.
Anginophobia – Fear of angina or choking.
Anthrophobia – Fear of flowers.
Anthropophobia – Fear of people or society.
Aphenphosmphobia – Fear of being touched.
Arachnophobia – Fear of spiders.
Arithmophobia – Fear of numbers.
Astraphobia – Fear of thunder and lightening.
Ataxophobia – Fear of disorder or untidiness.
Atelophobia – Fear of imperfection.
Atychiphobia – Fear of failure.
Autophobia – Fear of being alone.



Bacteriophobia – Fear of bacteria.
Barophobia – Fear of gravity.
Bathmophobia – Fear of stairs or steep slopes.
Batrachophobia – Fear of amphibians.
Belonephobia – Fear of pins and needles.
Bibliophobia – Fear of books.
Botanophobia – Fear of plants.



Cacophobia – Fear of ugliness.
Catagelophobia – Fear of being ridiculed.
Catoptrophobia – Fear of mirrors.
Chionophobia – Fear of snow.
Chromophobia – Fear of colors.
Chronomentrophobia – Fear of clocks.
Claustrophobia – Fear of confined spaces.
Coulrophobia – Fear of clowns.
Cyberphobia – Fear of computers.
Cynophobia – Fear of dogs.



Dendrophobia – Fear of trees.
Dentophobia – Fear of dentists.
Domatophobia – Fear of houses.
Dystychiphobia – Fear of accidents.



Ecophobia – Fear of the home.
Elurophobia – Fear of cats.
Entomophobia – Fear of insects.
Ephebiphobia – Fear of teenagers.
Equinophobia – Fear of horses.



Gamophobia – Fear of marriage
Genuphobia – Fear of knees.
Glossophobia – Fear of speaking in public.
Gynophobia – Fear of women.



Heliophobia – Fear of the sun.
Hemophobia – Fear of blood.
Herpetophobia – Fear of reptiles.
Hydrophobia – Fear of water.
Hypochonria – Fear of illness.



Iatrophobia – Fear of doctors.
Insectophobia – Fear of insects.



Koinoniphobia – Fear of rooms.



Leukophobia – Fear of the color white.
Lilapsophobia – Fear of tornadoes and hurricanes.
Lockiophobia – Fear of childbirth.


Mageirocophobia – Fear of cooking.
Megalophobia – Fear of large things.
Melanophobia – Fear of the color black.
Microphobia – Fear of small things.
Mysophobia – Fear of dirt and germs.


Necrophobia – Fear of death or dead things.
Noctiphobia – Fear of the night.
Nosocomephobia – Fear of hospitals.
Nyctophobia – Fear of the dark.


Obesophobia – Fear of gaining weight.
Octophobia – Fear of the figure 8.
Ombrophobia – Fear of rain.
Ophidiophobia See Also: What Are the Different Types of Phobias? – Fear of snakes.
Ornithophobia – Fear of birds.



Papyrophobia – Fear of paper.
Pathophobia – Fear of disease.
Pedophobia – Fear of children.
Philophobia – Fear of love.
Phobophobia – Fear of phobias.
Podophobia – Fear of feet.
Porphyrophobia – Fear of the color purple.
Pteridophobia – Fear of ferns.
Pteromerhanophobia – Fear of flying.
Pyrophobia – Fear of fire.


Samhainophobia – Fear of Halloween.
Scolionophobia – Fear of school.
Selenophobia – Fear of the moon.
Sociophobia – Fear of social evaluation.
Somniphobia – Fear of sleep.


Tachophobia – Fear of speed.
Technophobia – Fear of technology.
Tonitrophobia – Fear of thunder.
Trypanophobia – Fear of needles / injections.


Venustraphobia – Fear of beautiful women.
Verminophobia – Fear of germs.
Wiccaphobia – Fear of witches and witchcraft.
Xenophobia – Fear of strangers or foreigners.
Zoophobia – Fear of animals.

Alcohol with energy drinks, a dangerous combination

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Mixing alcohol and energy drinks poses a serious public health risk. The explanation is because people who drink heavily, become more intoxicated, and have more negative drinking consequences when they ingest both energy drinks and alcohol, compared to when they only use. Drinking either alcohol and energy drinks on the same day or combining the two at the same time tends to cause you to spend more time drinking—thus consuming more alcohol—than you would have without the caffeinated drinks.


The result of spending more hours drinking raises blood alcohol levels to higher peaks. But because of the stimulant effects of energy drinks, you would feel less drunk than you actually are. “This can have serious potential health impacts, for example if people don’t realize how intoxicated they actually are and decide to drive home,” Patrick said.

But a similar study conducted by the Department of Community Health at the Boston University School of Public Health found that it wasn’t necessarily the combination of alcohol and caffeine that posed a risk, but the profile of the drinkers themselves that led to negative consequences.

It appears that the consumption of caffeinated alcoholic beverages has a direct effect on increasing risk by masking intoxication and making it easier for you to consume more alcohol. It also appears that consumption of alcohol with caffeine may itself be a marker for engaging in riskier behaviour.”

Energy drinks claim to stimulate the mind and body plus provide a boost of energy but can have adverse effects when mixed with alcohol. Mixing energy drinks with alcohol as a means of getting a high without getting sleepy is potentially hazardous.

Steve Clarke, director of the College Alcohol Abuse Prevention Centre, warns against mixing these energy drinks with alcohol. Fatigue is the body’s way of saying it’s had enough to drink and it’s dangerous to continue to try to fool your body that you’re not as drunk as you really are, he said. Even though (the energy drink) has stimulants in it, the alcohol is still going to have similar effects on you.

You may feel more alert but actually the alcohol is having the same effect on you. So you might perceive that you are less impaired when in actuality you are not less impaired. High levels of caffeine can boost heart rate and blood pressure, causing palpitations, according to National Institute of Health. Mixing these drinks with alcohol further increases the risk of heart rhythm problems.

Energy drinks have a lot of stimulants in them like ginseng and taurine, while alcohol is a depressant so by mixing the two you’re sending mixed messages to your nervous system which can cause cardiac related problems. The appeal behind mixing energy drinks with alcohol is the promise of sustained rush that would allow people to go on drinking longer into the night and combat hangovers.

Alcohol makes people dehydrated, which is one of the reasons why people have hangovers, and the caffeine in the energy drinks is a diuretic which also causes people to lose water. So it makes the effects of dehydration worse. It would be more positive to alternate non-alcoholic and alcoholic beverages because it will keep you hydrated and decrease the negative effects of alcohol.

Why Faith Is Important

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Faith speaks the language of the heart.


Faith is an expression of hope for something better. More than a wish, it is closer to a belief, but not quite. A belief is rooted in the mind. Faith is based in the heart.

We act in faith when there is no guarantee, no certainty. No one knows what kind of life an infant will have, yet people continue to have children. No one can know how life with our mates will turn out, yet we continue to have faith our relationships will last a lifetime.

Faith speaks the language of the heart. It is an expression of hope that goes beyond the conscious mind.

All that we hold precious rests upon a faith in people, their potential not yet fulfilled. The evidence of history points us in a different direction—the world is full of ugliness, brutality, and injustices. Yet there is also tenderness, kindness and concern and that takes the bigger part of our hearts.
Without faith in ourselves we would hold ourselves cheap, and without a faith in others we could never live as free people. This is the water that quenches parched souls.
Here is a famous parable: Once a traveler came across an old woman who was stooped over what appeared to be thin sticks. He asked the woman what she was doing.


“I am planting orange trees,” she explained.

The traveler thought this was a waste of her time.

“Why do you bother?” he asked. “You are an old woman. These saplings will take years before they will be old enough to bear fruit. You will be long gone by then.”

“True enough,” she answered. “But I don’t plant these trees for myself but for those who will come after me, just as those before me planted the trees that bear the fruit that I eat today.”………….SOURCE

A MUST READ: The Hearty Story Of The Man Who Sacrificed His Ambition For His People (The Behind The Scene Drama In Aso Rock)

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President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan GCFR

When Orubebe took to the floor yesterday to disrupt proceedings at the Collation centre, I feared for the worst. Just imagine what would have happened if one or two of the security men had forcefully tried to remove him. He would have fought them off, the other PDP agents would have come to his defense and the police would have been called in to remove everyone using teargas.

That would have been the end of it. In the ensuing melee, the result sheets would have disappeared and all hell would have broke loose.

State of emergency would have been declared and we would be talking about elections in two years time or more depending on how subsequent events panned out.

I don’t even want to imagine the pogroms that would have ensued? In 1962, the case of disruption of proceedings in the Western Region House of Assembly led to the state of emergency which led to the January 1966 coup and this lead to the northern counter-coup and eventually the tragic civil war.

Yesterday, Godsday Orubebe nearly threw Nigeria into such a turmoil again but President Goodluck Jonathan averted it.

What transpired in the Presidential Villa was this: when the outcome of the election began to turn against President Goodluck Jonathan, many Hawks in government and in PDP started pressurizing him to step in and turn the tide via manipulation and State power. He refused.

I know someone who knelt down with tearful eyes asking him to act like an African President and jettison this European idea of gentlemanism. PGEJ refused to intervene.

When President Jonathan’s attention was drawn to what Orubebe was doing on TV, he quickly asked one of his aide to get him General Buhari immediately on the phone. Contrary to reports that GEJ was watching the programme, the man left others to watch it and went to sleep. The trending picture of him with Abdusalami purportedly watching the event is a big hoax. That picture was taken during the peace-accord drive of Gen. Abdulsalami before the election.

President Jonathan quickly called Gen. Buhari to congratulate him even before the collation officially ended because he wanted to pull the sail on the antics of his Hawkish supporters. If he hadn’t done that they would have used his influence to do something foolish. It was Okonjo Iweala that called President Jonathan to intimate him of Orubebe’s actions.

I have been battling tears ever since I learnt what happened. If only Nigerians knew that many Hawkish PDP stalwart and top government officers stormed out angrily on this humble President when they learnt he had called Gen. Buhari to concede defeat, claiming that he betrayed them. One Northern ally of his even called him weak. That call was what saved the day. Orubebe was told of the call and he quietly walked away, allowing collation proceedings to continue.

GEJ made that call to Buhari around 16:15 hours.

Only the Doves remained with President Jonathan. Many of the Hawks are still not speaking to him even now.

General Abdulsalami and other African Statesmen were still pondering how to douse the expected mayhem and they placed a call to Gen. Buhari to plead with him to restrain his supporters and to tell him they were preparing to go and meet President Jonathan to call his Hawkish associates to order when Gen. Buhari told them not to bother that PGEJ has already called him and conceded defeat. Everyone was stunned beyond word.SOURCE

A Different Kind of ‘I Miss You’

Granny Smith: Unleashed

This past week, my boyfriend Matt embarked on a journey to Hong Kong for business. I missed him A LOT, but I didn’t realize how the ‘art of missing someone’ can have many different layers.

In general, Matt and I live about 45 minutes from each other and see one another once or twice a week (depending on our schedules). When he’s not around during the week, I miss him and wonder how he’s doing and what he’s been up to. But, when he traveled to the other side of the world, I missed him in a different sense of the word.

When Matt’s 45 minutes away, we have email, text, phone calls, you name it, to help keep us connected. When he was overseas, his phone didn’t work and the only form of communication we had was with Facebook. And, seeing as how Hong Kong is 13 hours…

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Thinking of suicide? Read me


“You see the giant and the shepherd in the valley and Elah and your eye is drawn to the man with the sword and shield and the glittering armor. But so much of what is beautiful and valuable in the world comes from the shepherd, who has more strength and purpose than we can ever imagine.”

 -Malcolm Gladwell



I survived a suicide attempt, spent years in rehab centers, jails, psych hospitals. Now I have worked as a staff, and at times as a supervisor at these type of facilities.

However my friend, he did not. This is what suicide looks like. This is him after hanging himself, right before he died. February 25th 2010.


The difference between us is nothing except our resources. He grew up in rough environment, by that I mean school, neighborhood, friends, and life experiences.

I try to preach getting to know each patient…

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Forced Surrender: Fear will make you a prisoner, but love will set you free



“Sometimes our inability to control our instincts gives us a level of courage we don’t normally have.” -Jason Whitlock

We all try to hide ourselves with the mask, even if we do not know we are doing it. However, there are times that we cannot hide our true nature. It is usually in a crisis or a moment when our instincts take over. The true self bursts out despite our best efforts. Usually, it is a beautiful thing to witness. It is like seeing a picture of love. It is a rare occurrence. I was thinking of this example the other day and decided it might be a good moment in my life to share.

The courtroom was full. The custody battle has been long and complicated. Judge Harrington has heard this go on in his courtroom for months. Everyone was finally done presenting their cases and the evidence. It…

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Once upon a time there was a child ready to be born. One day the child asked God, “They tell me you are going to send me to earth tomorrow but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?” God replied, “Among the many angels I have chosen one for you. She will be waiting for you and

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🐸 Froggy

A group of frogs were hopping contentedly through the woods, going about their froggy business, when two of them fell into a deep pit. All of the other frogs gathered around the pit to see what could be done to help their companions. When they saw how deep the pit was, the rest of the dismayed group agreed that it was hopeless and told the two frogs in the pit that they should prepare themselves for their fate, because they were as good as dead.

Unwilling to accept this terrible fate, the two frogs began to jump with all of their might. Some of the frogs shouted into the pit that it was hopeless, and that the two frogs wouldn’t be in that situation if they had been more careful, more obedient to the froggy rules, and more responsible.

The other frogs continued sorrowfully shouting that they should save their energy and give up, since they were already as good as dead. The two frogs continued jumping as hard as they could, and after several hours of desperate effort were quite weary.

Finally, one of the frogs took heed to the calls of his fellows. Spent and disheartened, he quietly resolved himself to his fate, lay down at the bottom of the pit, and died as the others looked on in helpless grief. The other frog continued to jump with every ounce of energy he had, although his body was wracked with pain and he was completely exhausted.

His companions began a new, yelling for him to accept his fate, stop the pain and just die. The weary frog jumped harder and harder and – wonder of wonders! Finally leapt so high that he sprang from the pit. Amazed, the other frogs celebrated his miraculous freedom and then gathering around him asked, “Why did you continue jumping when we told you it was impossible?” Reading their lips, the astonished frog explained to them that he was deaf, and that when he saw their gestures and shouting, he thought they were cheering him on. What he had perceived as encouragement inspired him to try harder and to succeed against all odds.

This simple story contains a powerful lesson. Your encouraging words can lift someone up and help him or her make it through the day. Your destructive words can cause deep wounds; they may be the weapons that destroy someone’s desire to continue trying – or even their life. Your destructive, careless word can diminish someone in the eyes of others, destroy their influence and have a lasting impact on the way others respond to them.



The story goes back some time ago, a man punished his 3-year-old daughter for wasting a roll of gold wrapping paper. Money was tight and he became infuriated when the child tried to decorate a box to put under the Christmas tree. Nevertheless, the little girl brought the gift to her father the next morning and said, “This is for you, Daddy.”

The man was embarrassed by his earlier over reaction, but his anger flared again when he found out the box was empty. He yelled at her, stating, “Don’t you know, when you give someone a present, there is supposed to be something inside?” The little girl looked up at him with tears in her eyes and cried, “Oh, Daddy, it’s not empty at all. I blew kisses into the box. They’re all for you, Daddy.” The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little girl, and he begged for her forgiveness.

Only a short time later, an accident took the life of the child. It is also told that her father kept that gold box by his bed for many years and, whenever he was discouraged, he would take out an imaginary kiss and remember the love of the child who had put it there.

In a very real sense, each one of us, as humans beings, have been given a gold container filled with unconditional love and kisses… from our children, family members, friends, and God. There is simply no other possession, anyone could hold, more precious than this.

Tackling gender disparities as Nigeria stagnates on the Global Gender Gap table

Hopefully they’ll come around.
But it still boils down to the woman taking systematic measures

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The World Economic Forum has ranked Nigeria 122, four places behind the previous year, in the 2017 Global Gender Gap Report. The GGGR is a framework for capturing the magnitude and scope of gender-based disparities and tracking their progress over time. Since 2006, when the reports were first published to include more than 100 countries, the lowest ranks have been occupied by some of the most populous developing countries. It was in this same year that Nigeria ranked her highest yet: 94 out of 114 countries. Eleven years later, 30 more countries added, and Nigeria has moved 28 places below.

While the current report notes that a total of 68 percent of the world’s gender gap is now closed, with the reversal driven by declining gender equality in the workplace and political representation, we examine Nigeria’s stagnancy on the GGG table.

It’s been eleven years of motion yet no movement…

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What MMM (NIGERIA) Actually Ment By Freezing!

Okechukwu Nwokafor 

My Dear participants on MMM, if you login to your Personal Office (PO) you will read the reason why this latest development is being carried out. The system is not caught unaware. It a measure taken directly by MMM. It is not dictated to them and it is within their control. 

You should be happy that the MMM system understand the process of making you happy by protecting your fund. All of us know that majority of participants are waiting to to GH this December to come back and PH in January. This particularly is not helpful to the sustainability of the system. If majority GH and few PH, won’t there be pressure on the system to meet up with numerous participants that will keep Getting Help till first week of January. Mind you there are prolong festive season in December, the Christmas, the Boxing Day and the New Year celebration. 

If we all get help this period and few provide help won’t you foresee problem. Remember MMM operation is pyramidal like any other financial institutions. Don’t let us turn MMM to a punching bag. If we punch it ferociously, the bag might burst. Your thinking and the way you run on MMM is different from the way the owner of MMM think and operates. 

The system told you categorically and it is a step you pass through before you register and before you provide help that “YOU MUST DONATE YOUR SPARE MONEY” that is money you can not regret at any point in time. for those that are crying foul now, MMM has not offended you, you are the one who have violated the ideology of MMM by borrowing to PH or by providing large amount above your spare money there by turning MMM into a money spining organisation. MMM is a network of mutual aid community. We have all turned MMM to a punching bag and we are not playing according to rules. Otherwise we shouldn’t cry foul now that the system anticipate the style by which we PH and GH. You find is protected. 

You are not going to lose money. You will get your reward according to the numbers of days your mavro is frozen. The system did not collapse as some are saying. Login into your PO and it will not deny you. Scroll through the network checking your mavro, bank account and your page and you will see that everything is intact. The freezing period is not indefinite. You have been given the day your mavro will be unfrozen. So why the panic and why the worry. MMM will get better in 2017. Let us learn to play according to rules. Several people want 30% reward and many did not read what MMM ideology is all about. It is always with us here in Nigeria that we don’t have time but we want to make money without understanding what the rule of making that money says. 

For those who have deceived some people to register so that they can get referral bonus by assuring those people at all cost that they will get help of 30% by so so time, you will be disappointed because you have not been honest with the ideology of MMM. However, there is nothing to panic about. If you are matched to pay, go ahead and pay otherwise you will be blocked. For those who had gotten help before now, wait for your money to be deposited into your bank account. If the help provider refused to pay, he/she will be blocked and another participants matched to pay you. No problem. 

There is 20% holiday bonus now. If you because of this freezing of a thing and you refuse to provide help, in January your bank account will not be fat and don’t be jealous of those of us who will be in a happy mood then. My Dear participants on MMM, this is the time for you to know and be happy that MMM is not a robot. It is being managed by people who constantly implement strategy that will make the system healthy. By instant matching when you provide help, the issue of FAKE POP that you all talked about will be a thing of the past. Lots of measures are being taken to make MMM Nigeria endure and last for a very long time for all of us. 

The Government of Nigeria and media houses have glorifying their negative publicity before now by asking for the promot.

I met a Rabbi

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A man approached rabbi and said, “Bars are full of people sitting there to enjoy themselves.”

Rabbi replied nothing to him.
Not getting any response man again said, “Bars are full of bursting people spending all night playing cards drinking beers and you said nothing??”

“It’s good thing that bars are full”, replied rabbi.

Man was surprised to listen reply but said nothing.

Rabbi continued, “Everyone.. since the beginning has always wanted to serve God. The problem is that not everyone knows the best way to do so. Just try to think for a minute — what you Judge to be a Sin can also be seen As a Virtue. These people who spend the night in bar awake, they are learning Alertness and Persistence. When they have perfected these qualities then all they will have to do is turn their eyes to God, and think what excellent servants they will make..!!”

Listening to this only thing man said was, “You are indeed an optimist person.”

“It not about being optimist. It is merely matter of understanding, whatever we do however absurd it seem can lead us to the path, path of God, It’s all just question of time..”, replied rabbi.

Change can happen anytime in our Life, We should not lose Hope.

The Bear and The Two Friends

Posted By Okechukwu Nwokafor 

Once two friends were walking through the forest. They knew that anything dangerous can happen to them at any time in the forest. So they promised each other that they would remain united in any case of danger.

Suddenly, they saw a large bear approaching them. One of the friends at once climbed a nearby tree. But the other one did not know how to climb. So being led by his common sense, he lay down on the ground breathless, pretending to be a dead man.

The bear came near the man lying on the ground. It smelt in his ears, and slowly left the place. Because the bears do not touch the dead creatures.Now the friend on the tree came down and asked his friend on the ground, “Friend, what did the bear tell you into your ears?” The other friend replied, “The bear advised me not to believe a false friend.”


Moral: True Friend is the one who always supports and stands by you in any situation.